Dating Spooks

21 Oct

Halloween is my favorite time of year. Dressing up, handing out candy, decorating and scary movies……nothing makes me happier!!! This year, I ventured to Lewisburg’s Haunted Cave with a former colleague. I hadn’t been to a haunted house in forever and it was my friend’s idea. Why not?

It was dark, I had creatures fallowing me, playing with my hair, grabbing my legs….it was thrilling! When it was over, my heart was racing, I was smiling and was happy I went. It’s the only time I find being scared was fun! Unfortunately, DATING is an all out fear fest that seems to never end.

Back in the dating game again, i re-opened my Plenty of Fish profile. No big deal, right? I’m a veteran! Well, I’m also out of practice and finding that being in a relationship has turned me into an antisocial leper. I have got to shed this skin……

After five minutes of updating my profile, the alerts come flooding in. I take pride in my sweet and savvy profile, surely people aren’t reading that fast! As i look over the profiles of the men who message me, i’m finding they do not fall within the realm of who I am searching for. I can only assume they aren’t reading my profile, but rather messaging any girl who shows “online.”

This is frustrating.

I received a message, “I think we dated before.”

::Screeeeeeeeeech::

“Oh really?”

Another message followed: “Yeah, i think we met at Easton and saw a movie…..”

There was a repugnant, undigested, phlegm that shot up my esophagus. I regretfully swallowed it and responded, “You ate off my plate.” Anxiety pulsed my veins and i could feel my cheeks becoming red with embarrassment and anger. If anyone knows me, i was feeling the adverse effects from The Runaway Date. I was mortified. I don’t know if he responded to that because I immediately blocked him and took down my profile. I deleted the app.

Why did The Runaway Date have to come back from the dead? ugh.

I felt like the Scary Movie version of The Exorcist

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Just like the rules of Scary Movies, there’s rules in dating. I’m adopting Shorty’s Rule #3: DON’T LOOK BACK!

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Moving on……………….

Flowers

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I remember the moment I said “I do” just how unsatisfied and trapped I felt. I vowed I would never feel that again the moment I became divorced.

Things change. People change. We adapt to our circumstance and as a result, many relationships grow apart. Animosity grows. Anger can keep you awake at night.

But it’s ME who I am upset with. I am mad at myself that I opened myself up, became vulnerable, and forgot that it’s not my partners responsibility to make me happy.

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I am furious that I forgot to cater to the divine individual I am.

I am continuously learning of relationships, through my own personal experience or through observing others.

Never wait for someone else to make you feel good about yourself. Look in the mirror and give yourself a wink, hot stuff. Enjoy a latte at a local bookstore. Gift yourself a pedicure and a new outfit!

Buy yourself some beautiful flowers…….

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Make yourself feel amazing every day!!

Johnny Depp: The Man of My Dreams……Part II

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I had this profound dream. To refresh your memory click here.

Then, the Akron Marathon favorited my post in twitter…..
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So I take that as a sign to research. Something out there is seeking me to run a race that I had never heard if, that came to me in a dream.

I talked myself out if it, unable to reason the now $105 registration fee to cater my own desire when I have two kids, bills, insurance and a long list of responsibilities that come way before anything I want. To top that, insecurity reigned as well. My last marathon concluded in 7 hrs, one hour longer than the 6 hr Akron Marathon time limit. Self doubt and responsibility will always win.

Last night, I told my marathon dream to someone. Just a random, babbling conversation. Then I go to the casino. Spending $40 dollars, and right when I was down to my last 8 bucks……

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The Penny Buffalo gave me $36 bucks. I cashed out my 44 dollars and went to another machine. I needed to even out to my 40 so I could walk away and break even. That’s the OCD in me. It has to be even.

But four dollars was hard to spend. I kept winning. When I finally got down to $40.01, I was told to cash out.

“but the penny might be lucky!”

I decided this will be my lucky penny. I cash out, retrieve back my two twenties and a shiny new 2014 penny. A proceed to walk out……

*screeeeeeeech*

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I have never seen a poker chip up close before. “Val, that’s a hundred dollars!!!”

Am I being punk’d?

It just didn’t seem real.

Money doesn’t grow on trees but somehow a poker chip landed on the floor in my direct path. I couldn’t spend my own money on myself but someone else’s would surely cover the cost of the Akron Marathon. Maybe that someone is missing their lost poker chip. Maybe they don’t even realize it’s gone. Maybe they don’t realize the amazing feeling they gave a girl feeling unsure and down……

Johnny Depp, are you gonna show up and tell me that I need to wake up, that I’m not dreaming………?

Johnny Depp: The Man of My Dreams

12 Jul

I love the crazy plots my sub conscience gives me during slumber. What I love even more is deciphering the crazy weirdness that may come from it.

Here it goes:

–Dream Begins–

I was traveling to another country to visit my dad in a business trip. I found him and a couple colleagues sitting on a bench at a softball diamond. I sat down with them and took a small apron and tied it around my waist. This was an apron that you would see raffle ticket holders wear- to collect money and tickets.

I got up and walked around, seeing a man propose to his gay partner when all of a sudden, people behind me came up and shoved bills and coins into my pouch. I wasn’t sure what was going on. I was confused.

I turned around and looked at my dad who had realized my desire to run in the Akron Marathon. He had posted a charity to plea and help my dream come true. People, strangers passing by were smiling and shoving their donations at me. I was shocked, awed and amazingly touched by the generosity of strangers willing to help someone like me.

After all the overwhelming donations came in, Johnny Depp strolled by, grabbing my apron and peeking in to see how much I had collected. He said he was going to take care of my marathon registration.

Wow.

–Dream Ends–

Surprise
To dream that you are pleasantly surprised indicates that you are opened in acknowledging and confronting your subconscious feelings.

Travel
To dream that you are traveling represents the path toward your life goals. It also parallels your daily routine and how you are progressing along. Alternatively, traveling signifies a desire to escape from your daily burdens. You are looking for a change in scenery, where no one has any expectations of you. Perhaps it is time to make a fresh start. If your travels come to an end, then it symbolizes successful completion of your goals.

Money

To see or win money in your dream indicates that success and prosperity is within your reach. Money represents confidence, self-worth, success, or values. You have much belief in yourself. Alternatively, dreaming about money refers to your attitudes about love and matters of the heart. It is a common symbol for sexuality and power. In particular, finding money indicates your quest for love or for power.

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Johnny Depp
To see a celebrity in your dream represents your beliefs and understanding about her or him. Consider what the celebrity is famous or known for and how you relate to that quality. Something in you waking life has triggered these similar beliefs and feelings. It is not uncommon that your obsession with a certain celebrity may carry over onto your dream world. Celebrities are often seen as heroes and all that is mighty. Also consider any puns within the name

Marathon
To dream that you are running in a marathon represents life’s journey and how you are performing or feeling. It is symbolic of your endurance and willpower. Consider how you feel about the marathon and how you are approaching it.

Unspoken

22 May

“So my advice: Don’t ask for unspoken prayer requests. Tell people what you really want them to pray for. Be open. Confess. And watch God use your honesty to encourage and restore you.”

The Unspoken Prayer Request

Have you ever been so treacherously mad? So bitingly vindictive? Have you felt your boil so maliciously that the sustaining sensation felt overwhelmingly murderous?

Read on……

I am not sure if I can accurately say that I hold grudges. I can depict the events of my life with fast precision and massive details that will make your head spin. The phrase “forgive and forget” just never made sense to me because I cannot forget.

I can easily relive a past moment or event with any simple reminder and it hits me like a freight train. A certain smell, a word or the way someone laughs can unlock the memory banks of my mind and it rushes endlessly.

Most of the time, I keep it to myself. Who wants to hear about the outfit I wore on the first day of school in third grade or 9th grade or the boy I sat next to in first grade where I immediately segue into naming all my teachers kindergarten through 12th?

I know all that seems funny and it truly is. I am thankful that I can relish in the happy, silly moments of my existence over and over again. But what about the not-so-silly-moments?

The moments of my life which I have felt hurt and sad can unlock tears and exhaust the life right out of me.

Right now, something in my life has happened that left me feeling very angered towards something. I believe wholeheartedly that our feelings are our own. I do like to be happy all the time but when I’m not, I instantly analyze. Why do I feel this way, what does it mean? What can I learn?

Dating Creativity

13 Feb

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Once upon a time, I was dating someone……grading him in aspects such as wit and looks, he was quite impressive. But when it came to the subject of Creativity, he failed.

Miserably

When I noticed most of the dating activities we participated in came from ideas that I had come up with, I decided to bring it up.

But all I got was excuses.

I questioned his prior dating experiences, “have you ever dated a girl before me?”

I was being sarcastic and by the fiery haze in his eyes, it stung too. He divulged numerous dating scenarios from his past.

A-Ha!!!! He DOES have the brain capacity to aspire and impress a girl he liked!!!!!!

Valentine’s Day comes but once a year, yet I am constantly reminded of the lack of creativity men have shown the last 364 days prior.

Let’s not be lazy.

Time to step up your game.

Listening to : Aretha Franklin – Think

Destination: Known

7 Dec

All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.

Earl Nightingale

Life happens. The fast paced go-go-go takes its toll from time to time and in this moment I am finding solitude in my dreams to travel.

I need a mental vacation!!!

I sat in front of google maps and literally let myself explore the world.

    Where would I go?
    Who would I meet?
    What would I learn?

I love a good geography lesson anyway, but I found myself scrolling in and zooming further to find fascinating places that I never heard of! From there, I searched each place on PINTEREST and found captivating photos! Exotic, stunning, and dynamic places far from a life that I have always known.

It would be a lesson to learn. A culture to observe. People to befriend. The world sustains so much life that it would be an honor to extend ourselves the opportunity to take it all in!

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A~Maracaibo, Venezuela
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B~Punta del Este, Uruguay
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C~Jamestown, St Helen Island
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D~Freetown, Sierra Leone
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E~Madrid, Spain

    To see my pal, Olivier!

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F~Cork, Ireland

    Because my best friend’s family is traced here!

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G~Dunfermline, Scotland

    Family ancestors…..

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H~Oslo, Norway

    My bad ass ancestors are Vikings!

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I~Lancashire, England

    Family traces back to England!

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J~Bayern, Germany

    Haus der Familie Lambert!

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K~ Italy
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L~Portoroz, Slovenia
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M~Bucharest, Romania
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N~Moscow, Russia

    For rock potato soup!

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O~McLeod Ganj, Himachal Pradesh India

    To have breakfast with the Dalai Lama!

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P~Bangkok, Thailand
กรุงเทพฯ, ประเทศไทย
To visit my friend, ดวงสมร
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Q~Christchurch, NZ

    To visit family I only get to see on facebook

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R~Vancouver, BC

    To see family!

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S~Dallas, Tx
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T~ Home

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I would love to sit looking over the lake in the hot, sticky humidity, and feel what raindrops feel like in Venezuela. I want to see the constellations within my Zenith in the Southern Hemisphere in Uruguay.

I never heard of St Helen Island but it looks like an amazing place to hide. Life brings us ups and downs and what better way to experience it all over by climbing that marvelous staircase and finding your way back!

There are so many places I want to go. To say hi to old friends. To say hi to new ones I would meet along the way. To go way back to where it all began when I traced my family roots in Scotland, Norway, Germany and England. And to come home touched, refined and with a new mental sense of vitality from the awakening of the world!

If anyone has unlimited funds and two passports and tickets…..let me know!!! Lol

Until then, this girl is dreaming…..

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